What would you rather pay for? An illegal war based on lies in Iraq, or for another man's family to be covered?

If I had a say, I'd rather have our tax dollars going to helping Americans, rather than killing innocent Iraqis in the name of a lie... but it seems that all the Neocons get mad about on here is having to spend money to help other people, their fellow countrymen.. I didn't see any of them get mad about how we've spent trillions on this illegal and pointless war... do they just like spending their money on killing instead of helping, or what's the deal?